However successful someone may appear to be, the honest ones would have to admit that there’s at least one thing in their lives that really isn't working for them. Many of them will have actually stopped thinking about it altogether - possibly even avoiding the subject as much as they can.
So, imagine someone like that choosing to hire a success coach who does three specific things with them:
1. Helps them face the situation honestly
2. Provides them with a clear plan of action
3. Stays with them throughout the process to ensure they get the result they really wanted
That’s exactly what I do as your Success Coach. I do seven, one-hour sessions for £2,000 and I make sure that in a matter of weeks your situation is completely turned around.
You have dreams that are have not become a reality for you, longings that remain unfulfilled - so why don't we work on those together and get you the result you've always longed for?If that's you, then take the bravest step by choosing to invest in yourself. Send me a note immediately through the form on my ComeAlive Success Coaching website.
5 Things not to do...
It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult.
If you haven't seen 10 Powerful Ways to get out of Stuck: PART 1
, have a read of that first.
It’s interesting to note that some people are motivated much more by what bad stuff they must avoid in life, rather than what good things they could lay hold of.
So, this list is for you if you’re in that camp; if you need to hear about the things that could be getting in your way right now. Address these and you’ll find the success comes an awful lot easier.6. Seek the perfect answer before taking action.
This approach is definitely going to keep you stuck! If you have been maintaining this frame of mind, and I’ve been guilty of way too much of it during my life, you may be justifying your lack of action with a very convincing argument that you could do it that much better if you just learn a bit more, get a better role model or attend another seminar.
You may not be stuck on detail, however, it may be that you haven’t completely defined your grand life purpose and think you must get that completely nailed down before you take another step.
These are just excuses. It’s time to admit you are procrastinating. And procrastinators always have very good reasons for their approach. But ‘to know and not do, is not yet to know.’ That means that if you haven’t taken action on what you already know, you don’t really even know what you think you know. Did you know that? Take action, learn from the doing and you may be surprised t what actually works. 7. Dive in with all you’ve got... without a sustainable plan.
Have you ever made a New Year resolution? How many of them lasted the year? Maybe some did; probably the majority of them didn’t! Why is that? Surely your intentions were good, positive and admirable. So, was it a lack of will-power?
Very, very often, it comes down to the fact that you didn’t have a plan of action that was sustainable. Taking time to plan ahead, for the good times and bad will help you plan what’s realistic and devise ways of countering those times when the natural motivation seems to have waned.
8. Keep the blinkers on.
Blinkers are good for horses. They shield their eyes and stop them seeing stuff that could distract or frighten them – especially when they’re on the highway.
Focus is a good thing. There are far too many people whose vision is not clear enough and they move from one thing to another wondering if this latest thing is the answer to their dreams. Yet it is equally dangerous to be so focused one thing that you ignore some important advice, opportunities or warning signs coming from another direction.
Don’t blinker your vision too much. Allow yourself time to look at alternative ways of achieving things because if you only have one way to achieve your goal and that fails, you’ll assume it can’t be done.
9. Go at it like it’s a 100 meter sprint
The mindset of the marathon runner is far more suited for those who wish for long-term, sustainable success. Build up your personal and business fitness
Establish habits that keep you active, growing and balanced, for this is how life can be sustained.
‘Business at the speed of thought’ is fine, once you’ve established a system robust enough to deliver. It does not mean that you should think it and
“Ready shoot, aim.” Is another popular saying in modern business culture – and that may be exactly the right approach but *only* once you’ve assessed the potential risks, the downside you may be landed with if it all goes horribly wrong. And you do need to build into your plans that you will fail more often than succeed. That’s the only way to succeed without living under huge amounts of stress.
10. Try to do it all yourself.
Yes, it is essential that you take ultimate responsibility for your life, your choices and your behaviours. Once that’s clear, there are two specific things you really must do.
The first thing is to identify the areas that are required for you to succeed and build a team (or a better team) that is specifically composed of people who can take on the tasks that you are not so good at. Doing this will supercharge your progress and enable you to multiply your impact massively.
The second thing is that it is also essential that you find a coach who can help you tackle those areas that are not natural strengths. In fact, if you’re really smart – and committed to your personal success – you’ll also have a coach or mentor who is several steps ahead of you even in the areas where you are skilled, able and successful.
Take the first step – grab your own copy of TEAM ME to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential. “This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” Brian Tracy
– Author of over 80 best-selling books.
Take the next step – do your own search to find a coach who is expertly suited to your situation
or arrange a 10 minute call
with me, to see if my approach is what you need right now.
But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, get a coach!
The Archetypes dominant in your life make you who you are.
The aim of an Archetype Profiling is simply to show you which archetypes are most dominant in your life. When these become apparent, all kinds of related issues can be understood and, very often, hidden in these issues, we will find the reason why you've become *stuck* at some point in your life.
When I play back what the profile has indicated, people sometimes simply acknowledge it; sometimes are completely amazed. But what happens next is the most important thing because with this profile to hand I can then easily predict what they value most in life, what motivates them, in what sort of situations they would find contentment and happiness, what types of people they admire (or loath), what their ideal career would involve. In many situations, it's not so much *what* they do, it's *how* they would do it.
Listen to Joy as she talks about the impact a short profiling session had on her own self awareness and note the comments I've added into the middle of the recording. These will give you a context that would not otherwise be apparent, and shows you why the session was so liberating for Joy herself.
How can I get an Archetype profile?
You can follow the method in Chapter 3 of Pad's book 'Team Me' (available from the Products
page, on Amazon UK Amazon US
or other online bookstores, as well as iTunes and Amazon
as MP3s). This will give you a good indication of your present dominant and recessive archetypes, But in order to more adequately interpret the results, you might want to contact Pad and arrange a personal session by phone, Skype or face to face to gain a thorough understanding of who you were truly born to be.
Brian Tracy - Author of over 45 books and over 300 audio and video learning programs on personal and professional development.
My Top 10 Brian Tracy Quotes...
I've written a little about how much I've learned from Brian in my book 'Team Me'.
I'm one of thousands who have benefited from his insights, clear explanations, methods and encouragements over the past few years.
I thought I should share some of my favourite quotes
- People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine.
- Practice Golden-Rule 1 of Management in everything you do. Manage others the way you would like to be managed.
- If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings.
- Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, "What's in it for me?"
- You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile.
- Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.
- Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.
- Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all.
- The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.
- The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire - not things we fear.
And then there's one more quote I'd like to share with you...
What did Brian Tracy think of TEAM ME?
"This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your
full potential for success and achievement."
Brian Tracy. Author, The Way To Wealth
**This is an excerpt from Chapter 6 of TEAM ME - now widely available on Amazon and virtually every other online book store**
The Shadow Side
During a private coaching session, I had introduced my client to the whole concept of Archetypes and led him through an exercise that helped him to connect with, and release, his ‘Sage’ in a very powerful way. The results were immediate and, he told me later, had made a huge difference in his relationship with his fiancée. As we rounded up he asked me a very good question, “Is it possible to have too much of one of these archetypes?”
What we’ve focussed on thus far have been the healthy, mature expressions of each archetype; emphasising the good things that each one is naturally able, and inclined, to contribute. We wouldn’t normally be concerned with anyone being ‘too mature’ or ‘too healthy’, but it is possible – in fact we should acknowledge that it is actually very common – for some of these archetypes to get out of balance – sometime chronically.
Something that Carl Jung recognised many years ago is that each of these archetypes also has a dark side; a characteristic set of negative behaviours that can cause real damage to both the individual and those within their circle of influence.
It is often said that someone’s greatest strength is also their greatest weakness and this phenomenon can be predicted very specifically for each archetype.
This dark side will often arise with the purpose of meeting our personal needs as rapidly as possible, often when we are stressed or fearful, and it will manifest itself in two broad ways; either as too much of an archetype’s traits, or too little of them.
If you can imagine each archetype being measured by its own thermometer, you can probably grasp the idea of there being a moderate zone of temperature that would represent the healthy, mature archetypal traits we’ve discussed thus far. But if the temperature rises above this zone, we’d say this character is now getting overheated; and, equally, if the temperature dropped too low, the same character would become frozen, inactive and stifled in its expression.
A similar metaphor we might use for this is found in the various states in which we can experience water: H20.
Water is, of course, vital for every kind of life. Yet it has to be at a moderate temperature for any living organism to benefit from it, because only then can we drink it or wash with it or even give it to our plants. However, if the very same water becomes too hot (or too energised, we could say) it can scald, hurt and even kill. Likewise, if it is frozen it can’t be absorbed, it can’t nourish us - we can’t even wash things with it. Turning to ice, it can block or burst our pipes, weigh down and break our power lines, paralyse our transportation, stifle our movements, immobilise our muscles, or even kill.
So the very same substance can sustain life within a certain range of temperature and can cause much damage when too far above or below this range.
In exactly the same way, each of our archetypes can provide great benefits to us if expressed within a moderate, balanced (healthy and mature) range of temperament – and can equally do great damage outside this range; either overheating or freezing.
The Balanced (or mature) zone contains all the positive qualities we’ve detailed so far. It should be our aim to remain in this place, where a healthy expression of our archetypes’ key traits is evident and everyone around us benefits.
The Overheated zone is where we launch into a predictable set of excessive expressions that invariably cause hurt and damage to ourselves and others.
The Frozen zone represents an evident lack of archetypal expression. Here the individual appears unable to access the abilities and strengths of a particular archetype, even when the situation is demanding it from them, and such a lack of appropriate response will render them quite ineffective.
What’s interesting is that each archetype displays very specific behaviours when it either overheats or freezes; when it operates with either too much, or too little energy.
Most people will find that their strongest traits, whilst mature and balanced much of the time, will on occasions flare up and overheat. This ‘untempered’ strength needs to be effectively managed if damage is to be limited.
An archetype may also dive into a ‘frozen’ state of inactivity – usually in response to stressful situations or a major failure after giving something their best shot. Even strong archetypes can lapse into this state when they’ve thrown everything they’ve got at a particular challenge and it is still not overcome. For under-developed or immature archetypes however it may take little more than a certain tone of voice or a certain look from someone to cause them to ‘freeze up’ this way.
Jung referred to these negative zones as ‘shadows’; giving us a sense that the very thing that can bring us the help we need - the positive, mature archetype - also carries with it a darker side that is always present and potentially very damaging.