5 Things not to do...
It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult.
If you haven't seen 10 Powerful Ways to get out of Stuck: PART 1
, have a read of that first.
It’s interesting to note that some people are motivated much more by what bad stuff they must avoid in life, rather than what good things they could lay hold of.
So, this list is for you if you’re in that camp; if you need to hear about the things that could be getting in your way right now. Address these and you’ll find the success comes an awful lot easier.6. Seek the perfect answer before taking action.
This approach is definitely going to keep you stuck! If you have been maintaining this frame of mind, and I’ve been guilty of way too much of it during my life, you may be justifying your lack of action with a very convincing argument that you could do it that much better if you just learn a bit more, get a better role model or attend another seminar.
You may not be stuck on detail, however, it may be that you haven’t completely defined your grand life purpose and think you must get that completely nailed down before you take another step.
These are just excuses. It’s time to admit you are procrastinating. And procrastinators always have very good reasons for their approach. But ‘to know and not do, is not yet to know.’ That means that if you haven’t taken action on what you already know, you don’t really even know what you think you know. Did you know that? Take action, learn from the doing and you may be surprised t what actually works. 7. Dive in with all you’ve got... without a sustainable plan.
Have you ever made a New Year resolution? How many of them lasted the year? Maybe some did; probably the majority of them didn’t! Why is that? Surely your intentions were good, positive and admirable. So, was it a lack of will-power?
Very, very often, it comes down to the fact that you didn’t have a plan of action that was sustainable. Taking time to plan ahead, for the good times and bad will help you plan what’s realistic and devise ways of countering those times when the natural motivation seems to have waned.
8. Keep the blinkers on.
Blinkers are good for horses. They shield their eyes and stop them seeing stuff that could distract or frighten them – especially when they’re on the highway.
Focus is a good thing. There are far too many people whose vision is not clear enough and they move from one thing to another wondering if this latest thing is the answer to their dreams. Yet it is equally dangerous to be so focused one thing that you ignore some important advice, opportunities or warning signs coming from another direction.
Don’t blinker your vision too much. Allow yourself time to look at alternative ways of achieving things because if you only have one way to achieve your goal and that fails, you’ll assume it can’t be done.
9. Go at it like it’s a 100 meter sprint
The mindset of the marathon runner is far more suited for those who wish for long-term, sustainable success. Build up your personal and business fitness
Establish habits that keep you active, growing and balanced, for this is how life can be sustained.
‘Business at the speed of thought’ is fine, once you’ve established a system robust enough to deliver. It does not mean that you should think it and
“Ready shoot, aim.” Is another popular saying in modern business culture – and that may be exactly the right approach but *only* once you’ve assessed the potential risks, the downside you may be landed with if it all goes horribly wrong. And you do need to build into your plans that you will fail more often than succeed. That’s the only way to succeed without living under huge amounts of stress.
10. Try to do it all yourself.
Yes, it is essential that you take ultimate responsibility for your life, your choices and your behaviours. Once that’s clear, there are two specific things you really must do.
The first thing is to identify the areas that are required for you to succeed and build a team (or a better team) that is specifically composed of people who can take on the tasks that you are not so good at. Doing this will supercharge your progress and enable you to multiply your impact massively.
The second thing is that it is also essential that you find a coach who can help you tackle those areas that are not natural strengths. In fact, if you’re really smart – and committed to your personal success – you’ll also have a coach or mentor who is several steps ahead of you even in the areas where you are skilled, able and successful.
Take the first step – grab your own copy of TEAM ME to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential. “This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” Brian Tracy
– Author of over 80 best-selling books.
Take the next step – do your own search to find a coach who is expertly suited to your situation
or arrange a 10 minute call
with me, to see if my approach is what you need right now.
But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, get a coach!
It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult right now.
Here are some absolutely key actions you can take immediately to bring about a big change in your situation.
5 Things to do...
1. Get absolutely clear on your goal.
Identify your most important goal – the one that will provide you with the greatest benefit, the biggest sense of fulfilment (or relief!) once you've achieved it.
Test it by ‘future pacing’. That is, imagine a time in the future when you've completely achieved that goal and see how it feels. In your imagination, really put yourself in to that position and ask yourself if it’s what you wanted and expected. How could it be better? Is there anything missing? Who is this good for? You, your family and/or friends, your community, nation, world? Are you actually ready for it? Is there any reason it couldn't be sustained once achieved? Once you have this clarity and its evidently something you can fully set your heart upon, take just a few minutes every single day to remind yourself of it in vivid detail. This will instruct both your conscious and unconscious mind that this is where you are heading.
2. Get clear on exactly what you believe about the goal you've set.
You may already know how important it is to get rapport with someone else before you attempt to persuade, encourage or input in any way into their lives. But now you should ask yourself, how good is your rapport with yourself?
If that sounds like a strange question, maybe I should ask another question; have you ever felt that there is some kind of conflict going on inside you? Until these inner struggles are resolved you will always, in some way, stay stuck – because you’ll be pulling yourself in two (maybe more!) directions at the same time.
I use a specific series of questions with my clients that helps them rapidly uncover these issues so that they can then choose what they want to ‘weed out’.
Uncover what you really, deeply believe about your goal, your situation and your capabilities. Then you’ll be able to align yourself towards your goals and achieve... well, practically anything!
“These [live] sessions have been the most powerful few hours I’ve experienced in… well, years!”
Hardy S - Corporate Executive. London.
3. Get clear on which archetypes are dominant in your life
There are many different archetypes that various authors present in their methods and they all their values. I like to keep things simple and focus on just six: the Sovereign, the Warrior, the Sage, the Lover, the Mystic and the Jester.
If you’ve never actually profiled yourself to understand which are dominant in your life, head over the explanatory video at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqyauKSZUHU
and map your own, personal profile.
Without this understanding you won’t understand what’s driving you, why you want to tackle things a particular way (and why rubs certain people up the wrong way), what it takes to motivate yourself and what sort of people you need in your immediate team to maximise your unique set of strengths and weaknesses.
4. Stay flexible.
Whatever you set your mind to do, make sure that you’re aware of the feedback you could be receiving. Simply look at the results you’re getting. If the results indicate that you’re moving in the right direction towards your intended goals, great... keep doing what you’re doing. If they’re not, then this is a sign that you probably need to try something different.
If you’re too rigid you won’t want to do this, so ask yourself, if you were willing to try another approach, what would that be?
This is not a reason to knee-jerk the moment one person says something negative about what you’re doing, but a call to take seriously the need to have a system that measures your progress and a willingness to respond to the signals by flexing your approach.
5. Find a role model you can learn from.
You have a goal? Good. Chances are someone has already done the very thing you want to achieve – or at least something similar. So find such a person and get as close to them as it is possible to do so. Learn from them, hang around them, read their books, listen to them as often as you can. You will find that they achieved what they have because of a certain mindset, a certain set of beliefs that they used to direct their actions on an ongoing basis. They will have made mistakes too – so take a shortcut by finding out what *not* to do too.
Close contact with a role model is one of the fastest ways of gaining the mental attitude required to replicate their success and, adding this to your present learnings, can enable you to go even further than they ever did.
We've got 5 more to go. But you can now take the first step
– grab your own copy of TEAM ME
to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential. “This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” Brian Tracy – Author of over 80 other best-selling books
Take the next step – sign-up with a coach who is expertly suited to tackle your situation. You can arrange a 10 minute call
with me to see if my approach is what you need right now, or do your own search to find someone else. But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, do get a coach.
The Archetypes dominant in your life make you who you are.
The aim of an Archetype Profiling is simply to show you which archetypes are most dominant in your life. When these become apparent, all kinds of related issues can be understood and, very often, hidden in these issues, we will find the reason why you've become *stuck* at some point in your life.
When I play back what the profile has indicated, people sometimes simply acknowledge it; sometimes are completely amazed. But what happens next is the most important thing because with this profile to hand I can then easily predict what they value most in life, what motivates them, in what sort of situations they would find contentment and happiness, what types of people they admire (or loath), what their ideal career would involve. In many situations, it's not so much *what* they do, it's *how* they would do it.
Listen to Joy as she talks about the impact a short profiling session had on her own self awareness and note the comments I've added into the middle of the recording. These will give you a context that would not otherwise be apparent, and shows you why the session was so liberating for Joy herself.
How can I get an Archetype profile?
You can follow the method in Chapter 3 of Pad's book 'Team Me' (available from the Products
page, on Amazon UK Amazon US
or other online bookstores, as well as iTunes and Amazon
as MP3s). This will give you a good indication of your present dominant and recessive archetypes, But in order to more adequately interpret the results, you might want to contact Pad and arrange a personal session by phone, Skype or face to face to gain a thorough understanding of who you were truly born to be.
Brian Tracy - Author of over 45 books and over 300 audio and video learning programs on personal and professional development.
My Top 10 Brian Tracy Quotes...
I've written a little about how much I've learned from Brian in my book 'Team Me'.
I'm one of thousands who have benefited from his insights, clear explanations, methods and encouragements over the past few years.
I thought I should share some of my favourite quotes
- People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine.
- Practice Golden-Rule 1 of Management in everything you do. Manage others the way you would like to be managed.
- If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings.
- Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, "What's in it for me?"
- You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile.
- Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.
- Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.
- Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all.
- The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.
- The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire - not things we fear.
And then there's one more quote I'd like to share with you...
What did Brian Tracy think of TEAM ME?
"This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your
full potential for success and achievement."
Brian Tracy. Author, The Way To Wealth
Ever wondered why you habitually find yourself drawn to a particular kind of character? This video may provide you with a bit of insight.
There is a sense in which these archetypes each has a complementary opposite. In real life, someone who is predominantly led by the archetype of the Lover, for example, may find themselves drawn to those who strongly exhibit the Warrior. They see in the other something that they find hard to access in themselves. This doesn’t mean that they find each other easy to get on with – sometimes there can be fireworks between them – but they do seem to have a fascination, even admiration, for their counterpart, whilst fully aware that they could never bring themselves to do the things the other often does.
Remember that opposites attract. Connection develops through likeness; passion from polarity. That’s worth repeating so it sinks in a bit more:
Likeness creates connection: Polarity breeds passion
The Sovereign knows that she can make things happen by her command – utilising her position of authority. Yet she has an admiration for the Mystic who makes things happen almost magically through his influence. They both use power as a means to an end, but do so in rather different ways.
The Warrior, for all his toughness and resilience, longs to find comfort in the arms of an adoring Lover; and she in turn admires the strength and tenacity in him that she feels she lacks herself.
The Sage may often not ‘suffer fools gladly’ yet can appreciate the perceptive wit of the Jester and benefit from the light-hearted approach to life that he brings. The Sage is sage enough to realise that there is such a thing as ‘the paralysis of analysis’ and that everyone needs a break from learning sometime. Likewise the mature Jester does recognise the value of the Sage’s outlook - that some things do need to be treated seriously and a life of complete frivolity is not fulfilling.
Do you know your predominant archetypes? Would you say that you are, in fact, attracted to people who fit a complementary profile?