Sometimes the Sage needs to get a bit more active!
Of course, you can comment... and if you like it, LIKE IT :-)
One of the keys to getting anyone to ‘step up’ to significantly improve their performance in any area of their life is to help get them into the character or energy of a more suitable archetype. In this instance David had only ever been used to presenting himself in his primary archetypal expression – the Sage.
First we explored what it would be like to go even deeper into the expression of the Sage. This helped to highlight the
and provided a stronger contrast for the new archetype we were about to explore.
The quickest way to invoke the Warrior archetype is to provide a target, a goal and some kind of *resistance
* to overcome. In this instance, the punch glove provided all we needed.
See how quickly John was able to access a very, very different kind of energy by this simple act. As he took action the whole room supported him so that he’d feel comfortable taking physical action – in fact, he probably didn't want to disappoint them which would have given him even more of a reason to show himself capable.
So, ask yourself, how have you been approaching that specific challenge you’re facing right now? Has your approach been effective? If not, then ask which of the archetypes is likely to help you the most. Then get into that character.
If you need guidance on this, you may want to contact Pad regarding personal coaching at: http://www.comealive.co.uk/contact-me.html
After a wonderful conversation with a friend - when we were discussing what we *had* achieved in the past year, and what we still *longed* to achieve, I headed back home. The journey back took 5 hours instead of 90 minutes because of 'engineering works' that impacted a major part of the rail network (funny how they plan these for holidays... :-)
With my head still absorbing things we'd discussed, it quite naturally and effortlessly distilled itself into the poem below.
Best read slowly, quietly, with a slight smile... to the music of Vaughan Williams.
I paint the scene with my eyes
I see what I create
I create what I see
It’s not all there is
But for me, it is to be
This has become my reality
I see, I speak, I walk the path
I plan, I build
I work, I laugh
And what I believe I see
And what I see I receive
It happens first inside of me
Not empty dreams
But a force of ingenuity
That forges my reality
For everyone to see
For what everyone can see
Started inside of me.
However successful someone may appear to be, the honest ones would have to admit that there’s at least one thing in their lives that really isn't working for them. Many of them will have actually stopped thinking about it altogether - possibly even avoiding the subject as much as they can.
So, imagine someone like that choosing to hire a success coach who does three specific things with them:
1. Helps them face the situation honestly
2. Provides them with a clear plan of action
3. Stays with them throughout the process to ensure they get the result they really wanted
That’s exactly what I do as your Success Coach. I do seven, one-hour sessions for £2,000 and I make sure that in a matter of weeks your situation is completely turned around.
You have dreams that are have not become a reality for you, longings that remain unfulfilled - so why don't we work on those together and get you the result you've always longed for?If that's you, then take the bravest step by choosing to invest in yourself. Send me a note immediately through the form on my ComeAlive Success Coaching website.
If you're actively coaching, full-time or part-time, or if you're seriously considering moving into coaching as a new career. This message is for you. Watch it here or read it below. :-)
This is my personal introduction to Judymay Murphy and with it a recommendation that you follow the links I've provided so you can learn from her as I have.
She is a personal coach to some highly successful people, including some household names, big business owners, media people, coaches and authors ...from around the world.
There are actually two things I'd like to share with you.
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Now, if I had the chance to spend just 10 minutes with a world class coach, I would ask them what specific tools they use to get rapid results in their clients... what do they teach their clients to get significant breakthroughs - especially their highest paying clients.
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If that wasn't enough, she’s also provided a set of audios of the early 20th Century quantum coaching classic 'The Game Of Life and How To Play It,'
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If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my years as a coach it’s that
YOUR ATTITUDE QUALIFIES YOU!
So, are you Curious? Committed?
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Wishing You a Prosperous New Year
There are no spelling mistakes or grammatical errors here... what I want to highlight as we embark upon a new year, is our need to *listen* more carefully than ever. And to learn to listen to reliable sources of information.
In crisis situations it's often hard to get through the *noise* that continually demands our attention and hone in on what's most important.
When times are tough people often reach out to grab anything
that they think might help rescue them and, in their desperation, may find themselves reaching for something that really doesn't help.
What looks like a lifeline might actually be a snake; what appears to be a shortcut may lead you off a cliff.
If you've ever read the famous book ‘The Richest Man in Babylon
’ you may remember the chapter that stresses the importance of taking opportunities when they come
. This can be a vital lesson, of course, but an earlier story in the same book highlights how disastrous it can be to dive in and trust someone who had no proven track record in a certain area.
"Every fool must learn," he said, "But why trust the knowledge of a brickmaker about jewels? Would you go to the breadmaker to inquire about the stars?" Algamish then said, "He who takes advice about his savings from one who is inexperienced in such matters, will pay with his savings for proving the falsity of their opinions."
The Richest Man in Babylon - George Samuel Clason
So, how can you know what to do?
Some people rely upon logic only. Like the Sage in the Team Me set of archetypes, they seek out evidence, they calculate the returns, they apply sound reasoning and distrust anything that does not stand up to their set of measures.
Some people will take any advice from those they know well – people they trust and feel connected to. Lovers want to be accepted by those they love so will go along with such advice, even when it’s not actually the best thing to do.
Some people simply follow their own gut. There’s a part of them they've learned to listen to that’s deeper than their logic, more trustworthy than their emotions.
YOUR TEAM OF ADVISORS
What I'd suggest is that you establish a balanced TEAM of archetypal characters that you can call upon. This can either be a team of real people you know and trust or, alternatively, a team of 'inner advisors'. These inner advisors are simply facets of your own character who represent the archetypal energies of Sovereign (King/Queen), Warrior, Sage, Mystic (or Magician), Jester and Lover.
You can take time to picture yourself in each archetypal role and ask yourself what the most's most important in this situation - then ask what would be the most effective thing to do.
If you practice this often, it's amazing how you can gain a rounded perspective on any situation - enabling you to make much more effective decisions.
In the workshops I'll be conducting London 2013, I'll be showing delegates exactly how to develop their own team of inner advisors to access perspectives they'd normal never attain.
Here's to your health, success and happiness in this coming year!
PS. For your ears only... wisdom on Shadow Archetypes
Here's something to fill you ears with immediately... I've recently posted the entirety of Chapter 6 from the Audio Edition of Team Me onto YouTube:
I wish I’d come across Roger Hamilton’s Wealth Dynamics many years before I did. It provides an insightful framework that explains why certain people seem to be able to create wealth easily; whilst others have struggled all their lives.
Established on ancient Chinese wisdom known as the I-Ching, Wealth Dynamics is based on the premise that everyone has an innate genius that has a natural but very specific ‘flow’. Recognising this and understanding how it operates is absolutely crucial before you launch into any endeavour. Your own, ingrained characteristics will also dictate the nature of your support network; the complementary characteristics you’ll need to have present in your team in order to establish and maintain your wealth.
Here are some of his most insightful and helpful quotes when it comes to understanding the dynamics of wealth (though he acknowledges some of these come from ancient sources):
“To know and not to do is not yet to know.”
“Think it, ink it: Do it, review it.”
“Your passion is your compass.”
“What you see is always what you get.”
“Invest more of your time; spend less of it.”
“Plan to fail.”
“Time is your most precious asset.”
“Sustainable wealth follows a rhythm.”
“You are the result of your choices.”
“When you resources you accumulate.”
“You settle for your standards.”
“Your well (of wealth) is in your words.”
“Harmony is the foundation of wealth.”
“Time has seasons.”
“Ask and you shall receive.” (Ok, Jesus of Nazareth got there first on this one :-)
Let me know which ones you like the best.
5 Things not to do...
It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult.
If you haven't seen 10 Powerful Ways to get out of Stuck: PART 1
, have a read of that first.
It’s interesting to note that some people are motivated much more by what bad stuff they must avoid in life, rather than what good things they could lay hold of.
So, this list is for you if you’re in that camp; if you need to hear about the things that could be getting in your way right now. Address these and you’ll find the success comes an awful lot easier.6. Seek the perfect answer before taking action.
This approach is definitely going to keep you stuck! If you have been maintaining this frame of mind, and I’ve been guilty of way too much of it during my life, you may be justifying your lack of action with a very convincing argument that you could do it that much better if you just learn a bit more, get a better role model or attend another seminar.
You may not be stuck on detail, however, it may be that you haven’t completely defined your grand life purpose and think you must get that completely nailed down before you take another step.
These are just excuses. It’s time to admit you are procrastinating. And procrastinators always have very good reasons for their approach. But ‘to know and not do, is not yet to know.’ That means that if you haven’t taken action on what you already know, you don’t really even know what you think you know. Did you know that? Take action, learn from the doing and you may be surprised t what actually works. 7. Dive in with all you’ve got... without a sustainable plan.
Have you ever made a New Year resolution? How many of them lasted the year? Maybe some did; probably the majority of them didn’t! Why is that? Surely your intentions were good, positive and admirable. So, was it a lack of will-power?
Very, very often, it comes down to the fact that you didn’t have a plan of action that was sustainable. Taking time to plan ahead, for the good times and bad will help you plan what’s realistic and devise ways of countering those times when the natural motivation seems to have waned.
8. Keep the blinkers on.
Blinkers are good for horses. They shield their eyes and stop them seeing stuff that could distract or frighten them – especially when they’re on the highway.
Focus is a good thing. There are far too many people whose vision is not clear enough and they move from one thing to another wondering if this latest thing is the answer to their dreams. Yet it is equally dangerous to be so focused one thing that you ignore some important advice, opportunities or warning signs coming from another direction.
Don’t blinker your vision too much. Allow yourself time to look at alternative ways of achieving things because if you only have one way to achieve your goal and that fails, you’ll assume it can’t be done.
9. Go at it like it’s a 100 meter sprint
The mindset of the marathon runner is far more suited for those who wish for long-term, sustainable success. Build up your personal and business fitness
Establish habits that keep you active, growing and balanced, for this is how life can be sustained.
‘Business at the speed of thought’ is fine, once you’ve established a system robust enough to deliver. It does not mean that you should think it and
“Ready shoot, aim.” Is another popular saying in modern business culture – and that may be exactly the right approach but *only* once you’ve assessed the potential risks, the downside you may be landed with if it all goes horribly wrong. And you do need to build into your plans that you will fail more often than succeed. That’s the only way to succeed without living under huge amounts of stress.
10. Try to do it all yourself.
Yes, it is essential that you take ultimate responsibility for your life, your choices and your behaviours. Once that’s clear, there are two specific things you really must do.
The first thing is to identify the areas that are required for you to succeed and build a team (or a better team) that is specifically composed of people who can take on the tasks that you are not so good at. Doing this will supercharge your progress and enable you to multiply your impact massively.
The second thing is that it is also essential that you find a coach who can help you tackle those areas that are not natural strengths. In fact, if you’re really smart – and committed to your personal success – you’ll also have a coach or mentor who is several steps ahead of you even in the areas where you are skilled, able and successful.
Take the first step – grab your own copy of TEAM ME to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential. “This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” Brian Tracy
– Author of over 80 best-selling books.
Take the next step – do your own search to find a coach who is expertly suited to your situation
or arrange a 10 minute call
with me, to see if my approach is what you need right now.
But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, get a coach!
It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult right now.
Here are some absolutely key actions you can take immediately to bring about a big change in your situation.
5 Things to do...
1. Get absolutely clear on your goal.
Identify your most important goal – the one that will provide you with the greatest benefit, the biggest sense of fulfilment (or relief!) once you've achieved it.
Test it by ‘future pacing’. That is, imagine a time in the future when you've completely achieved that goal and see how it feels. In your imagination, really put yourself in to that position and ask yourself if it’s what you wanted and expected. How could it be better? Is there anything missing? Who is this good for? You, your family and/or friends, your community, nation, world? Are you actually ready for it? Is there any reason it couldn't be sustained once achieved? Once you have this clarity and its evidently something you can fully set your heart upon, take just a few minutes every single day to remind yourself of it in vivid detail. This will instruct both your conscious and unconscious mind that this is where you are heading.
2. Get clear on exactly what you believe about the goal you've set.
You may already know how important it is to get rapport with someone else before you attempt to persuade, encourage or input in any way into their lives. But now you should ask yourself, how good is your rapport with yourself?
If that sounds like a strange question, maybe I should ask another question; have you ever felt that there is some kind of conflict going on inside you? Until these inner struggles are resolved you will always, in some way, stay stuck – because you’ll be pulling yourself in two (maybe more!) directions at the same time.
I use a specific series of questions with my clients that helps them rapidly uncover these issues so that they can then choose what they want to ‘weed out’.
Uncover what you really, deeply believe about your goal, your situation and your capabilities. Then you’ll be able to align yourself towards your goals and achieve... well, practically anything!
“These [live] sessions have been the most powerful few hours I’ve experienced in… well, years!”
Hardy S - Corporate Executive. London.
3. Get clear on which archetypes are dominant in your life
There are many different archetypes that various authors present in their methods and they all their values. I like to keep things simple and focus on just six: the Sovereign, the Warrior, the Sage, the Lover, the Mystic and the Jester.
If you’ve never actually profiled yourself to understand which are dominant in your life, head over the explanatory video at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqyauKSZUHU
and map your own, personal profile.
Without this understanding you won’t understand what’s driving you, why you want to tackle things a particular way (and why rubs certain people up the wrong way), what it takes to motivate yourself and what sort of people you need in your immediate team to maximise your unique set of strengths and weaknesses.
4. Stay flexible.
Whatever you set your mind to do, make sure that you’re aware of the feedback you could be receiving. Simply look at the results you’re getting. If the results indicate that you’re moving in the right direction towards your intended goals, great... keep doing what you’re doing. If they’re not, then this is a sign that you probably need to try something different.
If you’re too rigid you won’t want to do this, so ask yourself, if you were willing to try another approach, what would that be?
This is not a reason to knee-jerk the moment one person says something negative about what you’re doing, but a call to take seriously the need to have a system that measures your progress and a willingness to respond to the signals by flexing your approach.
5. Find a role model you can learn from.
You have a goal? Good. Chances are someone has already done the very thing you want to achieve – or at least something similar. So find such a person and get as close to them as it is possible to do so. Learn from them, hang around them, read their books, listen to them as often as you can. You will find that they achieved what they have because of a certain mindset, a certain set of beliefs that they used to direct their actions on an ongoing basis. They will have made mistakes too – so take a shortcut by finding out what *not* to do too.
Close contact with a role model is one of the fastest ways of gaining the mental attitude required to replicate their success and, adding this to your present learnings, can enable you to go even further than they ever did.
We've got 5 more to go. But you can now take the first step
– grab your own copy of TEAM ME
to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential. “This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” Brian Tracy – Author of over 80 other best-selling books
Take the next step – sign-up with a coach who is expertly suited to tackle your situation. You can arrange a 10 minute call
with me to see if my approach is what you need right now, or do your own search to find someone else. But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, do get a coach.
Master Certified Coaches give their verdict on the Archetypes Workshop conducted by Marcia Reynolds and Pad at the ICF Global Conference, London 2012.
"Really helpful in identifying where some challenges might be - where some opportunities might be."
"Amazingly simple... and it works."
"Observing a coaching session it made me realise how I can take this into my self-work as well as my work with clients to deepen and broaden the work we do together."
"It was a very challenging coaching demonstration but you managed to move your client to the next level using archetypes."
The acid test of any kind of model is 'does it work?' Does it get the results you need in any given situation. When I conduct Archetypes Workshops and ask for volunteers to help me demonstrate the Archetypal Profiling in action, I will always select the most challenging situation in the room.
In this instance it was a lady who had spent a Million Dollars promoting her business on the media and had essentially lost it all.
At this workshop, the room was packed with around 180-200 members of the International Coach Federation - people from over 20 nations, many of whom have decades of coaching experience and know what it is to work one on one with tough clients in challenging situations.
If you'd be interested in attending a TEAM ME Archetypes Workshop in London 2013, please contact Pad here
The Archetypes dominant in your life make you who you are.
The aim of an Archetype Profiling is simply to show you which archetypes are most dominant in your life. When these become apparent, all kinds of related issues can be understood and, very often, hidden in these issues, we will find the reason why you've become *stuck* at some point in your life.
When I play back what the profile has indicated, people sometimes simply acknowledge it; sometimes are completely amazed. But what happens next is the most important thing because with this profile to hand I can then easily predict what they value most in life, what motivates them, in what sort of situations they would find contentment and happiness, what types of people they admire (or loath), what their ideal career would involve. In many situations, it's not so much *what* they do, it's *how* they would do it.
Listen to Joy as she talks about the impact a short profiling session had on her own self awareness and note the comments I've added into the middle of the recording. These will give you a context that would not otherwise be apparent, and shows you why the session was so liberating for Joy herself.
How can I get an Archetype profile?
You can follow the method in Chapter 3 of Pad's book 'Team Me' (available from the Products
page, on Amazon UK Amazon US
or other online bookstores, as well as iTunes and Amazon
as MP3s). This will give you a good indication of your present dominant and recessive archetypes, But in order to more adequately interpret the results, you might want to contact Pad and arrange a personal session by phone, Skype or face to face to gain a thorough understanding of who you were truly born to be.